Do you ever have a horrible argument/fight
with your spouse and think that divorce is for you? Why do many people make divorce an
option? According to the Merriam Webster Online Dictionary, the
definition of divorce is the action or an instance of legally dissolving a marriage. About 50% of marriages in the US have ended
up in divorce. When we say our marriage
vows we should present them with the conviction of love and honor them for the rest
of our lives. Marriage vows specifically
say, “…..Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness
and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in
joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion,
forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall
live?” This means regardless of
what you are going through, you should stick by your spouse and love them
through the good times and the rough times.
In Mark 10:6-9 it states, "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and
female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united
to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but
one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." If you fear God
and say that He is your savior, nowhere in your mind should the topic of
divorce come up. ***
Have
enough respect for yourself, the marriage and your spouse to allow God to work
in your marriage, and as a servant of God, do anything in your power to make
things in your marriage right. Marriage
is a sacred commitment made between you, your spouse and God. If things get tough pray about it, seek help,
and try to make amends with your spouse.
Think back to when you were both young and in love, when you first met
each other, when you saw him for the first time and you got butterflies in your
stomach…what made you feel that way?
Pray, and allow God to mend things and allow time for healing. Stop the bickering, sit back and listen, and let
God lead the way. He will always have
the answers to your prayers. Make a
commitment to one another that you will make the time for each and reactivate
your love.
Being
married is not an aspect of life to be taken lightly and it is a lot of work. If
there are children involved, it’s even tougher, but as our lives move forward
and marriage progresses, allow yourselves time to go out, make date nights,
dress up for each, and do the special things you used to do for one another. The little things are the ones that
matter. Take time to listen, not only to
God but to each other… tell him what you like, what you need and how you need
it. Remember that
we both speak different languages and we have to learn in our marriage what
language our spouse speaks in order to make each other happy. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure,
for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives
free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has
said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." So we say
with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can
man do to me?" Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you.
Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith" (Hebrews13:4-7).
***There are many
situations; even the Bible speaks about them, in where divorce might be an
option. This blog is for those who
contemplate it because they are fed up.
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